Secret #44: Parental Fatigue and Embracing Imperfection with Debbie Sorensen

 

In this episode of Life's Dirty Little Secrets, hosts Chris McCurry and Emma Waddington welcome back clinical psychologist Debbie Sorensen to discuss the growing issue of parental burnout. 

Sorensen, an expert on chronic stress and burnout, elaborates on the overwhelming pressures faced by modern parents and how societal expectations, economic pressures, and lack of support contribute to their exhaustion. The conversation also touches on perfectionism, micro stressors, and the importance of self-compassion and support networks.

They provide practical advice, emphasizing the importance of asking for help, reducing expectations, and ensuring parental well-being.

Highlights:

  • Parental Burnout

  • Mental Health

  • Support Systems For Parents

  • Perfectionism And Its Impact On Parenting

  • Optimal Frustration In Child Development

  • Self-care For Parents

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction

01:12 Understanding Parental Burnout

02:09 The Perfect Storm of Parental Stress

02:32 Generational Differences in Parenting

04:11 The Pressure of Modern Parenting

05:24 Loneliness and Lack of Support

06:27 Economic Pressures and Future Uncertainty

07:17 Toxic Overachievement and Extracurriculars

14:49 Perfectionism and Its Impact

19:37 Defining Parental Burnout

23:07 The Pressure of Wellness and Self-Care Culture

23:38 Recognizing and Addressing Parental Burnout

24:42 The Importance of Easing Up and Taking Breaks

25:06 Trusting Your Instincts and Listening to Your Body

27:28 The Concept of the Good Enough Parent

28:50 Scheduled Time for Self-Care

29:54 The Role of Support Systems

31:12 Navigating Micro Stressors and Parental Guilt

38:09 The Impact of Temperament and Individual Differences

40:28 Final Recommendations and Takeaways

About Dr. Debbie Sorensen

I am a clinical psychologist with a private therapy practice in Denver, Colorado. I specialize in providing individual Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) for adults. My approach centers on helping my clients live a meaningful life, engage in effective behavior patterns, and have a healthy relationship with their thoughts and emotions.

I am a co-author of the book ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and a co-founder and co-host the popular psychology podcast Psychologists Off The Clock. On the podcast, we interview experts in the field of psychology and discuss ideas that can help people thrive.

I have a Ph.D. in Psychology from Harvard University, and graduated summa cum laude with a bachelor’s degree in psychology and anthropology from the University of Colorado, Boulder. I completed an APA-accredited clinical psychology internship at the Edith Nourse Rogers Memorial Veterans Hospital in Bedford, Massachusetts. I then spent 12 years working as a psychologist on interdisciplinary medical teams at the VA Eastern Colorado Health Care System, where I worked with veterans with disabilities, chronic health conditions (including MS and ALS), and chronic pain. After that, I worked for about two years as a part-time Clinical Research Psychologist at the Rocky Mountain VA MIRECC for Suicide Prevention. I co-founded ImpACT Psychology Colorado, a psychotherapy collective in Denver/Boulder, and the Healthcare Wellbeing Collective, which provides mental health support and resources for Healthcare Professionals. I currently serve as a co-president of the Women’s Special Interest Group of the Association of Contextual Behavioral Science.

I am passionate about teaching and training mental health professionals. When I worked as a VA psychologist, I was a nationally-recognized trainer and training consultant in ACT, and I supervised the work of doctoral students in psychology and provided consultation to mental health clinicians. I have presented my work nationally and internationally at conferences and formerly served as a lecturer in the Psychology Department at Harvard University. I serve as an ACT for Trauma trainer for MEND, an organization committed to providing to clinicians of color greater access to quality evidence-based trainings for the treatment of racial trauma.

I love living in Colorado, my home state, and I love my job as a psychologist! When I’m not working, I enjoy reading fiction, cooking, travel, and getting outdoors in the beautiful Colorado Rockies with my husband, two daughters, and dog.


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