Secret #42: Raising Loving Siblings with Jonathan Caspi

 

In this episode, Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry welcome back Dr. Jonathan Caspi, a sibling expert and family therapist, to discuss the intricate dynamics of sibling relationships. 

Dr. Caspi delves into the complexities of sibling conflict, the importance of closeness, and the impact of perceptions of favoritism. He provides actionable strategies for parents to preempt conflicts, establish rules of engagement, and reinforce positive interactions. 

The conversation also highlights the critical issues of sibling abuse and the lifelong benefits of strong sibling bonds.

Highlights:

  • Raising Loving Siblings

  • Sibling Conflict and Closeness

  • The Importance of Sibling Relationships

  • Gender Differences in Sibling Relationships

  • Parental Influence on Sibling Dynamics

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 Secret #42: Raising Loving Siblings with Jonathan Caspi

00:41 Introduction and Guest Reintroduction

01:48 Sibling Conflict and Closeness

03:32 The Importance of Sibling Relationships

12:42 Gender Differences in Sibling Relationships

23:49 Parental Influence on Sibling Dynamics

27:46 Identifying Conflict Triggers

28:37 Setting Clear Expectations

29:30 Motivated Action Plans

31:15 Acceptance and Commitment Therapy

32:06 Preemptive Discussions and Family Meetings

32:45 Rules and Rewards for Bedtime

34:24 Handling Sibling Conflicts

37:18 Parental Consistency and Favoritism

39:53 Managing Parental Guilt

42:12 Final Thoughts and Book Promotion

About Dr. Jonathan Caspi

Visit Dr. Caspi’s website

Follow @siblingexpert on X

Order Dr. Caspi’s books

Dr. Caspi is a Professor in the Department of Family Science & Human Development at Montclair State University, where he teaches about and studies sibling relationships. He has written 3 books and a host of academic articles, mostly about siblings. Dr. Caspi is also an individual, marriage and family therapist. In addition, he is a media consultant with appearances on NPR, The Brian Lehrer Show, WNYC, WHYY, the New York Times, CNN, Wall Street Journal, Washington Post & elsewhere. His 4th book, a parenting guide to learning about what exacerbates sibling conflict and how to manage it, will be out on Guilford Publishing, either later this year or early in 2025.


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