Secret #47: Living a Meaningful Life with Jenna LeJeune

 

Unveil the secret to crafting a fulfilling life even amid turmoil. In this episode, Dr. Jenna LeJeune, a distinguished psychologist, engages in a profound conversation about what truly constitutes a meaningful life. She emphasizes the power of choice, challenging the notion that there is an inherent purpose to discover, and instead advocates for consciously deciding what principles and values we want our lives to embody.

The episode also tackles the uncomfortable reality that living authentically aligned with one's values often accompanies discomfort and pain. LeJeune sheds light on how our deepest values can bring honor to our suffering, challenging the cultural fixation on feeling good. Rather than fixating on avoiding negative emotions, LeJeune suggests focusing on how we can embody our values in any situation, making values the great equalizer—accessible regardless of external circumstances.

Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own lives, the autopiloted values shaped by history, and the importance of stepping outside oneself to recognize and honor the person enduring hardship. This episode is a compelling guide for anyone striving to live with integrity and intention, offering practical wisdom to navigate the complexities of human experience.

Highlights:

  • Creating a Meaningful Life

  • Discovering Your Values

  • What are Values?

  • Suffering and Values

  • Values Dilemma in Daily Life

  • Challenges with Values

  • Approach to Values in Therapy

Timestamps:

00:00 "Choosing a Meaningful Life"

04:13 Moments of Feeling Truly Alive

07:30 One Approach to Discussing Values

10:54 Values and Suffering Connection

14:29 Embracing Pain as Attachment Reminder

19:29 Rethinking the "Good Life" Concept

24:33 "Aunt's Compassionate Patience"

29:08 Parenting Values Dilemma

31:38 Align Work-Life Values

36:18 "What Do We Truly Value?"

40:21 History Shapes Our Values

44:08 "Inescapable Personal Programming"

47:23 "Choosing Who to Be"

48:24 "Empathy and Values in Parenting"

52:55 Embracing Self-Reflection and Connection

55:18 Practicing Self-Compassion

About Jenna LeJeune

What would make for a well-lived, meaningful life? Many people come to me because they are feeling “stuck” in their lives. They often feel a loss of vitality, satisfaction, or meaning in their lives. That “stuckness” may come in the form of a chronic sense of emptiness or depression, difficulties with intimacy and relationships, struggles integrating past trauma and other painful life experiences, persistent shame or chronic self-criticism, or a more general life dissatisfaction. The type of therapy that I practice, called Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), is an evidence-based therapy that utilizes processes like mindfulness, acceptance, and values in order to help clients develop the skills needed to more effectively work with the suffering they experience.

But a well-lived life is more than just the absence of pain; it is the presence of meaning and purpose. Therefore, rather than just focusing on what people don’t want in their lives, I am most interested in helping people reorient to what they do want their lives to be about. I seek to help people live lives of integrity, purpose, and meaning even when the inevitable pain of life visits them. Many of us haven’t had much opportunity to explore what a “well-lived life” would actually look like for us personally. So, in addition to identifying areas of stuckness, I work with people to explore how they can create a meaningful life in the service of what would be most important to them.

As a licensed psychologist I practice evidence-based therapy, which means that my clinical work is informed by empirical research identifying those methods that science has shown to be most effective. Therapy is a big investment of time, resources, and energy. The scientific data suggest (and my more than 20 years of clinical experience has also shown me) that, for most people, the largest gains from therapy usually occur relatively early on in therapy, often within the first few months. Therefore, in order to help my clients make the most out of their investment in therapy, I work in a focused, time-limited model. That means that I see clients for  up to 12 sessions focused on a particular struggle, issue, or theme in order to make real and lasting change. While you may choose to come back at a later point to do another time-limited piece of work together, my focus is on helping you identify unworkable patterns and make concrete changes in your life rather emphasizing ongoing, long-term therapy. Fundamentally, my work is about helping people who are stuck reorient to what is most important and, in doing so, create more meaningful, well-lived lives.


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